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My Favorite Relationship Resources

Friday, March 23rd, 2012

It’s spring­time, which means that Kendra and I are in full-tilt mode doing pre­mar­riage coun­sel­ing, con­duct­ing wed­dings, and work­ing with new­ly­weds. We love this part of pas­toral min­istry, and that’s good because in our con­text, it is a very big chunk of it.

Lately, I’ve been asked more and more often which resources I’d most highly rec­om­mend for cou­ples who are dat­ing, engaged, or mar­ried. That ques­tion largely depends on a num­ber of fac­tors, includ­ing the spir­i­tual matu­rity of the per­son ask­ing, the age of the per­son ask­ing, and whether that per­son is already in some kind of rela­tion­ship or not.

Hav­ing said all that, here are my favorite resources for each type of situation:

If You are Con­sid­er­ing a Dat­ing Rela­tion­ship or Already Dating

1. The Mean­ing of Mar­riage by Tim and Kathy Keller — surely I put this in the wrong cat­e­gory, right? Nope, I sure didn’t. This book by far does the best job of help­ing every per­son — whether mar­ried or sin­gle — under­stand the Bible’s teach­ing on mar­riage. And it is only when young men and women rightly under­stand what mar­riage is really all about that they are best equipped to make God-honoring choices in their dat­ing relationships.

2. Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Har­ris — until I read the Kellers’ book, this was the only book I rec­om­mended to young men and women think­ing about dat­ing rela­tion­ships. I would say read Tim and Kathy’s book first, pray and fast for a long time, then when you think you are about ready to start a dat­ing rela­tion­ship, read Josh’s book.

If You are Engaged to be Married

1. When Sin­ners Say ‘I Do’ by Dave Har­vey — Dave does an out­stand­ing job of apply­ing the Gospel to mar­riage by show­ing that every­thing in mar­riage has to do with what we believe about God and His work through Jesus. If we don’t under­stand the Gospel or how the Gospel applies to mar­riage, we can’t hope to have God-honoring (or for that mat­ter, very happy) marriages.

2. The Mean­ing of Mar­riage by Tim and Kathy Keller

If You are Married

1. When Sin­ners Say ‘I Do’ by Dave Har­vey — I would also rec­om­mend the Study Guide; this is the most imme­di­ately prac­ti­cal resource for mar­ried couples.

2. The Mean­ing of Mar­riage by Tim and Kathy Keller — I only put this sec­ond because he puts so much empha­sis on the big pic­ture of mar­riage. It is still essen­tial, but less imme­di­ately practical.

3. Sacred Mar­riage by Gary Thomas — I think this book is great for cou­ples who have been mar­ried for a while and have a strong Gospel foun­da­tion. It’s not that it isn’t as good as the other resources, it’s that I think Har­vey is more explicit on the Gospel and Tim and Kathy are more clear on what mar­riage is ulti­mately about. What I love about Gary’s book is that it hits on a lot of issues that aren’t cov­ered by either Har­vey or the Kellers.

There is a great new resource avail­able I haven’t yet read that may fit well into all three of these cat­e­gories, but espe­cially in the Engaged or Mar­ried cat­e­gories. Paul David Tripp just pub­lished a new book called, What Did You Expect? Redeem­ing the Real­i­ties of Mar­riage. This book hits on the same theme that Tim and Kathy do a great job of flesh­ing out in their book, The Mean­ing of Mar­riage, namely that west­ern Chris­tians have pretty much all the wrong ideas about what mar­riage really is and what to expect out of mar­riage. I haven’t read it yet, but I hope to in the near future.

Happy Reformation Day!

Monday, October 31st, 2011

Today marks the 494th anniver­sary of Mar­tin Luther post­ing his 95 The­ses on the Wit­ten­burg Church Door — the  act which unof­fi­cially marked the begin­ning of the Protes­tant Ref­or­ma­tion. You know what that means — only 6 more years until the party is totally off the chain. We should prob­a­bly start plan­ning the 500th anniver­sary cel­e­bra­tion now.

Justin Tay­lor posted a nice arti­cle filled with good resources that will help you bet­ter under­stand the Protes­tant Ref­or­ma­tion, and as usual he does a very nice job. One book I’d like to rec­om­mend is Michael Reeves’s The Unquench­able Flame: Dis­cov­er­ing the Heart of the Ref­or­ma­tion. It was pub­lished by Cross­way in 2009 and is a very acces­si­ble paper­back (just 200 pages writ­ten in plain lan­guage) that cov­ers the gen­eral back­ground and all the major play­ers of the Ref­or­ma­tion: Luther, Zwingli, Calvin, and the Puri­tans. I can­not rec­om­mend this well-written book highly enough.

Enjoy Ref­or­ma­tion Day, and I pray that you’ll take advan­tage of Hal­loween par­ties in our town (per­haps even your own, or your Life Group’s) to build rela­tion­ships and share the Gospel with neigh­bors and peo­ple in our city.

The ‘Why’ in Community” by Brad House

Wednesday, September 21st, 2011

Based on the rec­om­men­da­tion of a friend at our church, I picked up Brad House’s new book, Com­mu­nity: Tak­ing Your Small Group off Life Sup­port. Brad serves as a pas­tor at Mars Hill Church. An engi­neer by train­ing, he was brought on staff at Mars Hill about 8 years ago when they had just 15 small groups serv­ing a church which saw thou­sands of peo­ple in atten­dance each week­end. Mars Hill now has over 500 small groups. No, I didn’t mean 50.

I’m just into the first chap­ter and I already love it. Here are a few quotes to whet your appetite:

Paul is con­cerned with the legacy of the church in Corinth. He is not sat­is­fied with them merely hear­ing or know­ing the gospel. But it is not  that Paul wants the church to do more. he wants them to be more. I am con­vinced that he is not dis­ap­pointed with the church as much as he desires to see them live abun­dant lives that reflect what Jesus has already done” (17).

We will not change the pre­con­ceived view of groups by mak­ing par­tic­i­pa­tion a require­ment for mem­ber­ship or by chang­ing the names of our pro­grams from ‘min­istries’ to ‘groups.’ Small groups will thrive when they become the place where we expe­ri­ence life-giving trans­for­ma­tion” (18).

I endeavor to affirm com­mu­nity as a gift of God’s grace for the pur­pose of exalt­ing the Son and mak­ing him known. In other words, com­mu­nity is not about us; it is about God. Com­mu­nity is an instru­ment of wor­ship, a weapon against sin, and a tool for evan­ge­lism — all for the exal­ta­tion of Jesus” (19).

See what I mean? Great stuff so far! Brad wrote a post for The Resur­gence enti­tled, “The ‘Why’ in Com­mu­nity.” I strongly encour­age you to read the post and then get plugged into one of our Life Groups tonight. If you are in the south Col­lege Sta­tion area, con­sider join­ing Wayne and Kyle McVay for their group; if you live near cam­pus or in Bryan, visit Chris and Dan­nah Pembelton’s group. Both have plenty of room and are eager to meet and serve you! For more infor­ma­tion on our Life Groups, click here.

Preparing for Exodus

Friday, September 16th, 2011

This com­ing Sun­day we will embark on a 34-week series through the Book of Exo­dus. I am approach­ing this series with a great amount of excite­ment. Under­stand­ing Exo­dus is essen­tial if you want to under­stand the Scrip­tures rightly. Time and time again, authors of the Old Tes­ta­ment books refer back to Israel’s slav­ery in Egypt, God’s deliv­er­ance from the army of Pharaoh through the Red Sea, and the Mosaic Covenant. More­over, Jesus refers to Moses and the events of the Exo­dus many times in His min­istry. Indeed, the “last sup­per” He cel­e­brated with His dis­ci­ples was a Passover meal, which was prior to the exo­dus from Egypt. Long sec­tions of the New Tes­ta­ment, includ­ing ser­mons by Steven and Paul and a lengthy part of Hebrews (to name a few) are devoted to God’s work dur­ing this time period.

Toward the end of the sum­mer, I started Mike Wilkerson’s book Redemp­tion: Freed by Jesus from the Idols We Wor­ship and the Wounds We Carry.Wilk­er­son walks the reader through the Book of Exo­dus as he explains God’s sal­va­tion from all things — idol­a­try, self-inflicted wounds (such as addic­tions), and wounds that were inflicted by oth­ers (such as rape, abuse, and adul­tery). He wrote the book to help push Chris­tians out of “sup­port” groups (which typ­i­cally rein­force the unbib­li­cal notion that some Chris­tians will always be iden­ti­fied by their par­tic­u­lar sin issue or as vic­tims) and into “redemp­tion” groups (which rein­force the idea that God’s sal­va­tion frees us from who we were to be who we are in Christ). I’m nearly fin­ished, and here’s what I will tell you about the book:

1) It is the most insight­ful treat­ment of Exo­dus I’ve ever read. I don’t say this because it is a schol­arly work; from that per­spec­tive, I’m quite sure there are bet­ter treat­ments. I say this because Wilkerson’s appli­ca­tions of Exo­dus were so help­ful to me as a Chris­t­ian and as a pas­tor. I saw Jesus and His Gospel in Exo­dus as never before.

2) It is really, really intense. As a pas­tor at Mars Hill Church, Mike has encoun­tered a lot of awful suf­fer­ing. He begins each chap­ter with a true story about some­one he has coun­seled (though the names have been changed). The open­ing chap­ter begins with a story about “Sarah,” and it was one of the most awful sto­ries of abuse I’ve ever heard. If you are look­ing for a cute lit­tle study to do with some friends over some light con­ver­sa­tion, this is not it. If you are look­ing for a resource that will help you see how God’s grace is suf­fi­cient for those who have suf­fered greatly at their own hands or the hands of oth­ers, this is it.

Each chap­ter con­cludes with a bunch of Scrip­ture ref­er­ences, a help­ful resource list (includ­ing ser­mons, books, and blog posts), and reflec­tion ques­tions to be used in per­sonal or group reflec­tion. This would be great to read indi­vid­u­ally or with oth­ers as we study the Book of Exo­dus together for the remain­der of the year.

Good Soldiers: A Biblical Approach to Leadership Development Now Available!

Friday, July 29th, 2011

We’re excited to announce that our sec­ond book, Good Sol­diers: A Bib­li­cal Approach to Lead­er­ship Devel­op­ment, has been pub­lished! The book is avail­able in both paper­back and PDF for­mats (for those who wish to read on their Kin­dle, iPad, or other device).

Here’s a brief descrip­tion from the back cover:

In many churches, the neces­sity of ongo­ing lead­er­ship devel­op­ment is not rec­og­nized until the need for a new leader arises — and by then it’s often too late. Paul instructs Tim­o­thy to share in suf­fer­ing as a good sol­dier of Christ Jesus, work­ing hard to train faith­ful men who will be able to teach oth­ers also. Good Sol­diers is an appli­ca­tion of this instruc­tion to both cur­rent and future lead­ers of the church. Writ­ten to be used in a small-group study for­mat, the book examines:

  • The Leader’s Relationships
  • The Leader as Shepherd
  • Repro­duc­ing Leaders”

At New Life, we are aware that we must be con­stantly devel­op­ing new lead­ers. In addi­tion to the chal­lenge of hav­ing lead­ers move to other cities for work, we are a grow­ing church with an increas­ing need for a greater num­ber of lead­ers — and not just elders and dea­cons. We need lead­ers who will help to dis­ci­ple new and non-Christians in small group for­mats or even one-on-one. We need lead­ers who will help assim­i­late new mem­bers into our local church. And most of all, we need lead­ers who can train more lead­ers — just as Paul trained Tim­o­thy and instructed him to entrust the Gospel mes­sage to faith­ful men who would be able to teach oth­ers also.

Whether you are already a rec­og­nized leader in the church, aspire to be an elder or dea­con one day, or sim­ply want to grow as a leader who can dis­ci­ple oth­ers, I hope that Good Sol­diers will serve you well. Happy reading!

A Theology of Food?

Wednesday, May 4th, 2011

You prob­a­bly know by this point that I am a Tim Chester fan. I’ve been greatly helped by his books and arti­cles. They have chal­lenged me to rely on the grace of God to grow as a Chris­t­ian, a hus­band, a father, a pas­tor, and a mis­sion­ary to our city. I will gladly read any­thing he writes.

I must admit, though, when I heard about his lat­est book, “A Meal with Jesus,” I was some­what skep­ti­cal. “Really?” I thought. “A book that is essen­tially a the­ol­ogy of food?”

How­ever, when I began to read sev­eral reviews, I see exactly why this book could prove to be so help­ful for us — par­tic­u­larly as mis­sion­ar­ies. One of the things peo­ple always say about New Life is, “I think it’s so cool that you eat din­ner together every week after wor­ship.” Eat­ing together is sim­ply part of the DNA of our church. Now, there will come a day when we are too large to do it all together any­more, but that doesn’t mean any­thing has to change about our DNA as a church. All that it means is that, like most good things in the church, it will have to be decentralized.

Back to Chester’s book. The sub­ti­tle to the book is ” Dis­cov­er­ing grace, com­mu­nity, and mis­sion around the table.” Chester makes the case that when we eat together, it is an act of grace because all good things, like food, come from the gra­cious hand of God. Fur­ther, we are com­mu­ni­cat­ing grace by extend­ing the offer of friend­ship to other unde­serv­ing sin­ners just like us. Even in the west in 2011, eat­ing together still has the same con­no­ta­tions as it did in Jesus’ culture.

Sec­ond, we find com­mu­nity around the table. I stated on Sun­day night that com­mu­nity doesn’t hap­pen by pur­su­ing com­mu­nity, but a com­mon goal. When peo­ple gather together with the com­mon goal of mak­ing, serv­ing, and eat­ing a meal, com­mu­nity hap­pens nat­u­rally. In fact, I’ll be going to make break­fast with mem­bers of our Life Group in just a few hours.

Third and finally, eat­ing together can be a mis­sional activ­ity. Many have said, “I just don’t have time to spend with my non-Christian co-workers, neigh­bors, or class­mates.” Well, Chester makes the point that we all eat (at least) 21 meals per week. If you asked some­one to join you or invited sev­eral peo­ple over just some of the time, that would be 3–5 more mis­sional oppor­tu­ni­ties with­out adding a sin­gle thing to the schedule.

You can check out Justin Taylor’s inter­view with Chester over at The Gospel Coali­tion Blog, or see the series of posts Chester has done for the Resur­gence as well. Happy eat­ing, and enjoy grace, com­mu­nity, and mis­sion as you eat!
Chester